The wedding platters will be discussed together by the groom's and bride's family to come to unanimous wedding ceremonies. After that, the groom's family will come back to prepare and on the wedding day, there will be a wedding orchestra to bring the bride to the bride's house according to the discussion, the bride's family will also arrange a squad to receive the tray with the number of members. fruit of the groom's wedding.
The wedding team will be the beautiful men and women, when they receive the tray, both will bring them into the house. Next will be the traditional wedding rituals such as making the ancestor ceremony, parents bowing to both sides, ... After the end, the bride's family will conduct the wedding ceremony and divide it for the boys to take home. Those are the beautiful and meaningful traditional rituals that grandparents passed down from time to time.
Wedding team lineup
The number of members of the soccer team is based on the number of ceremonies that the bride's family has requested. Usually the number of wheels will be odd such as 5 wheels, 7 wheels, 9 wheels and in some families, it can be up to 11 wheels. It is customary for the wedding grooming team to be those who are younger than or equal to the age of the bride and groom and unmarried, usually the bride and groom will choose the wedding grooming team members as their family members. Family members, close friends can also hire bearers or can also use fruit-bearing services.
When choosing a wedding team, you should choose people of the same age, the height is not too different, the face is easy to see and always cheerful.
Regarding the costume, depending on the wedding style that the two families desire, if they love the traditional features, the men's wedding team will wear a long tunic and a wedding band, the female wedding team will wear a plain long dress or Simple motifs like Hy letter. If the families of both sides desire more modernity, the groom's family can wear vest, casual pants, western shoes, tie, while the bride's family can choose simple skirts and clogs.
Meanwhile, the bride and groom will also wear uniform with two teams wearing wedding fruit, but they will be more sophisticated and more prominent to avoid fading in front of the fruit.
On makeup, you should avoid makeup too flashy, but instead should makeup gently, creating a sense of freshness, radiance that still highlights the bride and groom. The wedding squad of boys can also have light makeup or do not need makeup if you do not want.
The practice of predestination
The ceremony of giving the bride and groom a bride and groom's wedding is carried out in lucky money packages prepared by each family in front of the members of the bride and uncle's house. son-in-law. The amount of money in the bag is symbolic and agreed by the two families before. According to the old concept, a person in the wedding party will cause that person to be affected by the search for a faithful man in the future, even if he is not married. Therefore, the ritual of giving lucky money to each other is also known as the custom of giving gifts or giving gifts to help keep the fate of the wedding bearers. This is also considered to be the thanks that the bride and groom would like to send to their relatives and friends for helping me so that the wedding can take place completely.
The wedding fruit tray has many meanings, it not only expresses the sincerity of the groom's family to the bride's house but it also gives the groom's residence to the fostering care of the bride's parents for the bride. Depending on the region, the tray will have different preparations, before the big day, the two families will together choose the number of trays as well as the offerings in the tray.
Northern wedding fruit
According to the customs of the North, the preparation of fruits is more elaborate and more sophisticated than the other two regions.
The number of fruit trays in the North required to be odd such as 3 trays, 5 trays, 7 trays, or 9 trays and even in some weddings up to 11 trays. The number of trays is the odd number of offerings inside must be even, always in pairs because the odd numbers represent growth and even numbers make sense for having a married couple. Such arrangement is a reflection of the desire that the couple of the bride and groom will quickly develop, not only materially but also the development of having children full of herds, happy for hundreds of years.
Usually the offerings in the tray in the North will be betel nut, tea, wine, rice cakes, fruit, spousal cakes, cigarettes, ...
Fruit wedding Central
The number of fruits in the Central region often depends on economic conditions for the two families to discuss and prepare so it will not be too picky, just the most important and necessary ceremonies. However, the customs of getting married in some refugee areas in the Central will be different, for example in Danang. In Da Nang, the total number of people picking up a bride and picking up a wedding will have to match the birth number or the number of seniors. According to that birth - aging - disease - death will correspond to 1-2 - 3 - 4, to number 5 will return to birth, so on repeat so the number of fruit trays will usually be 5 or 9.
Unlike the North, where the number of areca is 100, the number of areca in the Central plate will be 105 to give the meaning of hundred years of happiness. Cake spousal, as the name suggests, it will symbolize the friendship of the husband and wife always get along well together. Tea alcohol is the heart that the couple wants to send to their ancestors hoping to receive the witness of their predecessors. The pair of wedding candles, also known as the red candles, will be played by an elderly person, who is in the position of the family to blow off after completing the rituals to bring good luck to the bride and groom.
Fruit wedding in the South
In contrast to the North, the number of wedding platters in the South in general and in the West in particular will usually be even, 4, 6, 8 or 10 wheels. In which number 6 is the most preferred choice because the number 6 symbolizes fortune, happiness and luck.
What makes the difference in the wedding ceremony in the South is that besides the necessary offerings, the groom's family will prepare an extra long dress for the bride and wedding earrings. , these two dishes will usually be prepared by the mother-in-law to show the concern of the mother-in-law for the future bride.
The offerings do not have much difference, including main dishes such as betel nut, betel nut tea, fruits, spousal cakes, etc.
Prepare
The boys and girls will agree on the number of fruits as well as the offerings in the fruit tray. After that, the groom's family will come home to prepare and wait for the good day to join the team to bring the onion to the bride's house to perform the ceremony of giving fruits and performing the ceremony.
Giving results
The groom's family will start going to the girl's house with the leader who is in the family position, usually the grandparents, then the groom's parents and then the groom, the orchestra of fruit and finally the members. different in the family. When the bride's family arrives, the first lady will greet and the wedding balloon team will conduct a ceremony of handing the tray to the girl's house, the girl's house has prepared a set to receive fruits with the same number of fruits. The groom's family is prepared. Both orchids will bring fruit together. After the ceremony of receiving the results, the ceremony will return to grace, the two sides will give lucky money to each other.
Receive fruits and proceed to open them
After the fruits have been brought into the house, the two interpreters will sit down to talk, the representative of each family will stand out to introduce the members present that day. The groom's family will explain the reason for coming to meet and introduce the fruits to the girl's house. The bride's representative will thank and accept, at this time the ritual is complete.
The bride will debut on both sides of the family
The bride will not appear during the rituals from when the bride's family arrives. It is only when the groom picks up or the bride's mother comes to the room to bring her down before the bride starts to greet the family, launches relatives on both sides.
Making a family ceremony
Once the bride has been introduced to her relatives, the bride's mother will start taking a few ceremonies from the fruits on the ancestral table, burning incense for the ancestors in order to receive witness. The bride and groom will also walk to the family table to light the incense for permission to proceed smoothly.
Discuss wedding ceremony
After the burning of the fairy incense is finished, the representatives of both parties will sit and discuss about the wedding, how and when the bride will be agreed.
Kickbacks
Before the groom's family has left, the bride's family will pay back a portion of the fruit trays to the boy's house to bring back, which is called fruit-bearing. One of the things to note is that the fruits must be an even number, do not use cutlery to cut the gifts but have to tear by hand, when returning the fruit tray, do not cover, must put the lid upside down.
Above is the essential information for couples preparing to marry the couple about the wedding results. Although wedding ceremonies are now shorter and simpler, many families also choose fruitful services so that everything can be done perfectly without too much effort in preparation and price of wedding plums is not too expensive. However, this is still one of the beauties in the traditional culture of Vietnamese people, so the careful preparation for the wedding ceremony is necessary and never redundant.
